Two weeks ago I was reading the book ‘Conversations with God’ by Naele Donald Walsh.
If you like books that make you think and laugh at the same time, I very much recommend you read it.
This sentence really struck me, as it seemed so applicable in my life right now:
‘…Every human thought, and every human action, is based in either love or fear.’
I was still brewing on this sentence, when last week I was in a deep conversation with someone and this person told me that in the end every human action is based on either fear or love.
This is when I knew. This is big, and this is something I need to work with.
I think we all love to consider ourselves people that work from our heart. We know we are kind and we mean well. But are we really?
I will be the first one to stand up and say that for 90% of the time, yes, I am the kind loving person that I desire to be. Every now and then though, this little scared voice in me speaks and says things like ‘but what if you get hurt? I don’t think that person likes you. I bet you that they talk behind your back.’ I think we’ve all heard that little voice inside of us. It is the voice of fear. It makes us do things that might not be as nice and kind and friendly.
It is the voice of fear that makes us be the first one to talk bad about someone else, to do little things to get ‘even’ with people. It is the voice of fear that leads us to actions that often hurt others to a point where they feel the need to hurt us back.
So what if we start challenging the voice of fear?
The last week I was walking around seeing if I could determine whether things that people said and did were based in love or fear. I tried to stay completely neutral and really hear what the other person was saying. I must say that it was an eye opener. Some people that I very much considered being in a place of love, actually turned out to be in a place of fear.
Then something even more interesting started happening, as I recognized the fear in people, I actually started feeling more love towards them.
I started feeling more friendly towards them, as I recognized in them what I recognize in me. I recognized that they must have the same small voice inside them that is feeding actions that are best described unkind. Now, I didn’t get up in the middle of 50 people to walk over and hug them, I do have some self constraint and adhere to social guidelines. I did sneakily send them a little imaginative ray of light and a kind thought though.
I would love for you to challenge yourself for a week, and start noticing which people around you act from love or fear. See if your recognize a bit of yourself in them, and see if you can send them a little ray of light.